Fuck intent. People need to wake up. I’m tired of people saying what they intended. You didn’t intend to hurt? Actually, it’s more like you didn’t intend for me to find out. Doesn’t make it any less jive because you’re so fucked up you don’t realize it. You can’t apologize for revealing the truth. You’re only sorry because you got served. You can’t apologize for showing, in a moment, how you really feel about something or someone. That’s honest. Don’t be sorry, correct yourself. Don’t just apologize, treat others with the same respect you would want given to you.
I also hate when people say shit like, “I’m sorry you took it the wrong way.” No, I didn’t take anything the wrong way. I called what you did for what it was and you don’t like how ugly your behavior looks in the mirror of truth. Don’t be sorry for “how I took it”, apologize for being janky and make efforts to not repeat the same foul patterns. That’s how you show you’re sorry. In fact, don’t be sorry at all because you only feel sorry for yourself. Apologize and do better.
You said you didn’t mean me harm. So What? You said I got the wrong impression. So What? You said you had the best intent. So What? And now you’re sorry. So What?
People think they can say they didn’t mean to do or say something and everything is supposed to be cool. Well, it’s not. Take this article in a Dutch magazine, for example:
“She has street cred, she has a ghetto ass and she has a golden throat. Rihanna, the good girl gone bad, is the ultimate niggabitch and displays that gladly, and for her that means: what’s on can come off. If that means she’ll be on stage half naked, then so be it. But Dutch winters aren’t like Jamaican ones, so pick a clothing style in which your daughter can resist minus ten. No to the big sunglasses and the pornheels, and yes to the tiger print, pink shizzle and everything that glitters. Now let’s hope she won’t beat anybody up at daycare.”
Really? We have not evolved beyond this imagery of Black people in 2011? Someone mentioned on my Facebook page that this is from a “Dutch” magazine. So What? Does that make it OK because some Dutch don’t really get what any of this means? Oh, the Dutch get it. They were amongst the first to colonize Blacks. Read the translation above: ghetto ass, golden throat? My guess is this was written by a White male with a jungle-pussy safari fetish, either that, or a White woman who envies the raw, sexual intensity and power of the Black female.
By the way, Rihanna is Bajan, not Jamaican, but I guess all NIGGABITCHES on an island are the same to you guys.
All About Eva
Check out the editor-in-chief’s response:
First: thanks for all your responses. We are of course very fed up over this and especially very shocked. However I’m glad that we’re engaging in a dialogue on this page — not everybody does that. Thanks for this. Other than that I can be brief about this: this should have never happened. Period. While the author meant no harm — the title of the article was intended as a joke — it was a bad joke, to say the least. And that slipped through my, the editor-in-chief’s, fingers. Stupid, painful and sucks for all concerned. The author has been addressed on it, and now I can only ensure that these terms will no longer end up in the magazine. Furthermore I hope that you all believe there was absolutely no racist motive behind the choice of words. It was stupid, it was naive to think that this was an acceptable form of slang — you hear it all the time on tv and radio, then your idea of what is normal apparently shifts — but it was especially misguided: there was no malice behind it. We make our magazine with love, energy and enthusiasm, and it can sometimes happen that someone is out of line. And then you can only do one thing: apologize. And hope that others wish to accept it. From the bottom of my heart I say it again: we never intended to offend anyone. And I mean that.
C’mon now, Ms. Hoeke. You really expect us to believe this half-assed apology? And who is the apology to? You didn’t mention Rihanna’s name once in the piece, further proof that’s it’s easy for many Whites to objectify Blacks and treat them as if they are not human. Racism is alive and well.
“First: thanks for all your responses. We are of course very fed up over this and especially very shocked.”
You’re fed up over this? How do you think black people feel about this? Don’t thank us for our responses. It’s sad we have to respond to such bullshit still in this day and age.
You said the author meant no harm. So What? Ignorance and stupidity are the hallmarks of hatred. I’m sure you intended it as a joke, but a joke on whom? Definitely not funny now, is it, Ms. Hoeke? I like saying that: “Hoeke.” And it slipped through your fingers?
You mean like “NIGGABITCHES” on chains slipped through your ancestors’ fingers on Dutch slave ships 400 years ago? I see not much has changed.
“Stupid, painful and sucks for all concerned.”
Aw, I’m so sorry it sucks for you and your staff.
“From the bottom of my heart I say it again: we never intended to offend anyone. And I mean that.”
The only thing that is apparent you have coming from the bottom of your heart is racist hatred is so deeply engrained you don’t even realize it. It didn’t “slip” through your fingers. You thought it was OK, just like your ancestors thought slavery was OK. You’re only sorry because you now see how ugly your behavior is. Well, as Miles Davis said, “So What?”
Igor At The Window
Here’s the thing, very few people actually sit around and intend to offend people. I don’t think most people who harm others do so with the intent to hurt. They’re not like Igor in a lab conspiring to destroy the world via their enraged vindictive vendettas, per se. They think selfishly at the expense of others, and as a result, hurt those around them. Good intent does not make the hurt less painful.
Chasing The Train (video via Trevor Watkis)
Now, see this lady here? I can deal with her. Why? Because at least she’s honest and had no problem publicly showing just how ugly she is inside. That’ll work, for what “I” do!
Seriously though, this is the kind of hate she’s spreading to her young child already. Racism is a toxic systemic organism that is spread from parent to child. Not everyone displays the type of overt racism this lady does, but you get the point. At least she’s honest. What always gets me is how some Whites love to taunt people of color whom they’ve colonized with “go back to your own country.” Uh, hello? This was our country before you brought your ass here, or, we were minding our own business in our “own country” before you brought our Black asses over here.
What about this recent Facebook post of Tea Party member, Jules Manson, where he said of Obama, “Assassinate the fucking nigger and his monkey children”? To which he responded that they were “careless, emotionally driven remarks that had no real substance.” Bullshit. Manson made racist, violent, hateful remarks about our president and his children and is still a free man. Racism is alive and well.
Manson, huh, any relation to Charles?
The Golden, Good Intentioned Road To Hell
All you people with “good intentions” are chillin’ on my nutz. Stop lying to others, and most importantly, stop lying to yourselves. The road to The Wiz was paved with yellow bricks. If you know the story, Dorothy and her friends experienced a lot of pain on that good, golden road. When they finally got to The Wiz, they found him to be a well-meaning, lying piece of shit.
Their whole world was fucked up because of this one asshole.
The Devil Made Me Do It
Regardless of what you believe, The Devil, like The Wiz, is just a well-intentioned prick. The fire, the pitchfork and the pomp and circumstance are covers for his fear. Why is he afraid? Because he hates himself and is afraid if you really know him, you’ll hate him, too. He makes himself out to have good intentions, but he is really a lie, a fork-tongued lie. The Tree of Good and Evil is a metaphor for well-intentioned evil.
That’s all the Devil is: a great liar with good intentions.
The Truth Will Set You Free
There is no such thing as “good” intent, because wherever there’s intent, there’s a motive and The Truth has no motive. The Truth only longs to stay true.
The idea of “good” and “bad” is the essence of evil. Duality itself is evil.
The Truth is oneness and takes no sides.
– Nicholas Payton aka The Creator of BAM aka The Savior of Archaic Pop